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Walt Whitman, Song of Myself

Taken from photo by Ben Wiggins

Taken from photo by Ben Wiggins

Where Were You?

Doug Mills / New York Times

Doug Mills / New York Times

I'm not sure if I'll ever have children.  But if I do, I'll tell them about today.  I'll tell them I was there.

I was working in my office at Dualtone in Nashville, TN when the Supreme Court ruled that same-sex marriage is a Constitutional right.  I was there when President Obama commented in his address post-decision that "our nation was founded on a bedrock principle: that we are all created equal."  I was there today, on the day when friends of mine could solidify their love in the same bond that I can as a heterosexual, when even yesterday they could not.

The fight for total equality is far from over.  Many bridges have to be crossed before we get to that point.  Racism, economic inequality, gender inequality, all just more tiny tips of the huge iceberg that is American society.  But today, we celebrate one victory that's been a dream for too long.  We celebrate the fact that our government recognized that love is love, and that people are people.  Love won today, and we were there.

Thinking about this has led me to rack my memory for other moments I was 'there' for.  I was there when the first black President of the United States was elected.  Better than that; when voting for the first time in my life, I voted for the first black President.  Not a lot can top that, but I keep combing through my memory.

I was there when Michael Jackson died.

I was there when the music industry became a more diverse and confusing entity than anyone has ever experienced before.

I was there to see coverage of dozens of shootings, bombings, and acts of hatred and terrorism.

I was there on 9/11.

I was there when we declared war on Iraq and Afghanistan.

But it hasn't been all doom and gloom! I was there when the Chicago Blackhawks won their 3rd Stanley Cup victory in 6 seasons, declaring them a great dynasty in the history of the NHL.

I was there when the Internet became a staple in American households, and when it became the behemoth of communication, commerce, and creativity that it is today.

I was there when Harry Potter, one of the most popular series of books in history, hit the shelves.  I was one of the people whose childhood was marked by the publication of each of Harry's years at Hogwarts.

I was there when Fleetwood Mac reunited in the famous five-some after decades apart, when they went on an unforgettable tour, and when Christine McVie made me bawl my eyes out playing "Songbird", a song I'd never thought I'd hear her sing live in my entire life.

I was there when the transgender community was given a louder voice than it has ever had.  Laverne Cox has helped catapult the movement into high gear, and I'm feeling that one day soon, transgender people will be given the respect they deserve.

It's time to celebrate the huge victory we were all a part of today.  There will be haters, there have been dissenters, people will still need convincing that this decision was a good one.  We still have a long way to go.  But today, we were there.  We were there to see love win.